my parents' friends' 24 y.o. son died. i thought i remembered hearing he was into coke, but it didnt sound like he OD'd, plus i dont think he had that kind of money. when i asked what he died of, my parents said something like "he did drugs!"
is naivete = harmless stupidity?
there was talk his organs got beat to shit by all these drugs he did. it seems unjust and even hard to believe that a 24 y.o. guy would wreck his body enough to die when all these bums downtown seem to live on and on forever. i've met people who have apparently done a lot of drugs and you couldnt tell just looking at them. i havent met any meth heads, that i know, but i hear it really ages you fast. i just saw some pics of this guy that just died and he looked healthy. my parents have met him and apparently he looked fine. his parents are obviously devastated. but they put on a prayer evening for his soul, and a mass at church on sunday... i said i wouldnt have done anything - just bury him and try to forget, because he did it himself, and he did it to his family, and since it was basically an extended suicide, i'm kinda surprised they had a mass for him at church. but someone said, they are his parents after all, so it shouldnt be surprising that they would do this for their son. makes me feel really sorry for them. so they cant help their nature and do what they feel they must for their son. and he apparently couldnt help his nature either, saw it coming, landed in the hospital a few times, there was some rehab effort, but in the end he died. ridiculous. fucked up. the flesh is weak. in some more than others. it's just sad. what a waste. seems like he just couldnt be helped. natural selection seems cruel, but i guess thats how it is. his nature just worked against him in his environment, which had apparently an abundance of things lethal to him. is this selection process leading to a humanity that is "smarter", with stronger will power, and a more robust physiology? i'm sure the race will survive, but the cost of this evolution to all the individuals around the "failing" subsets...
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I'm sorry to hear about that... it's always tough when someone young dies, and even tougher when you know they made themselves vulnerable and were probably to blame. I dunno if evolution tends towards a stronger race. It tends towards those who are best able to adapt to change. I think that's how it goes, anyway. That doesn't necessarily mean we're getting any smarter or healthier or better.
I think parents grieve in their own way for their children, when such a thing occurs. Another set of parents might have disowned the situation entirely, or stayed in denial of it all, or maybe they would have detached entirely well before he died and lie to themselves for the rest of their lives in thinking they don't care that they lost their child because they knew he or she would do themselves in a long time ago and they did everything they could to help. Human beings are very hard to predict, even in the most scientifically controlled or invariable circumstances.
Maybe the thing that's keeping the human species going is our unpredictability. One thing we are is resilient. Even if on an individual level, he wasn't, on a whole, I think we are.
Then again maybe I'm telling myself all this because I'm just lying to myself to make me feel better about what we are capable of doing to ourselves and our families. It's a macro-level of thinking that doesn't have much compassion in it.
I'll start over. I'm sorry to hear about that...
the death of someone I know always sends shockwave of mortality and frailty through me, so I grok a lot of what your saying. your right about our nature and our environment; it always seems to be working against us. i'm sorry things went down the way they did.
my father said something along the same lines of just burying people and moving on to a man when i was a little boy. the man just pointed at me.
look at lukasz or lily. tell me what you would do.
I imagine those parents are grieving for the boy they loved before he took drugs and for the man he could have been.
Are we evolving? Intellectually maybe, but physically we seem to be getting softer.
Physiology is what the body physically does when stimulated by the environment.
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